Lights of London


-massses of masses travelling the same way, rushing from here to there to everywhere- the endless beings in search for the endless satisfaction.-

Will this ever end?

After travelling 3 hours in the bus, because carneval in London held us up, carneval in London what a scene....the banks of the river thames were filled with people in the most colourful costumes. The bus driver then had the fabulous idea of kicking us all off the bus after being delayed. So all the people in the bus got off, because he had to be on the other side of the street already. Two hours passed, three hours passed and I had made friends with a Columbian lady in the bus who was going to tell me when to get off- West Norwood was my final destiny that night. And West Norwood it was.

My friend picked me up and finally I arrived at a warm place. I had already spent two nights at a Bed & Breakfast near Russel Square in a place called St. Athans- simple & good. We arrived and they made me pasta. Then we talked and caught up. The conversation took a funny turn though- suddenly we talked about sex, relations and the development relationships might take and I heared a facinating theory about free love.

Free love – meaning a guy who says that when he hás a girlfriend he tells her not to worry when she wants to have sex with somebody else that is totally ok, but just sex if she starts to feel something she needs to tell him. His theory is that relationships were there is a 100 % dedication and no betrayel is wrong because it goes against our instincts and because sooner or later most relationships end. Of course he said that exceptions define the rule.
But society is driven to a more and more independant, individual way. Away from the family bounds, the village closure and towards a global city community were there are a milion of people to chose from.
A fact is that many people are desperate in finding a partner to spent there time with. The right woman or man for ever and ever- everybodies biggest hope.
But wouldn’t we be happier if we chose people for the moment? They say live life to the fullest as if every moment was your last. Why then not being with many people and sharing many moments? His therory to some extent makes sense- a truly loving relationship- the “True Love” might turn into an Elite of couples who have found the right partner and managed to love each other unconditionally.
It has to be unconditionally, becuase what I see in most of the couples these days is that love has long gone and they are together because of pure comfort and routine. That is the danger in every relationship.

London, 20th September 2006